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Addressing Fear – Journal Prompt

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Today’s journal prompt is all about fear. We are talking about change this month, and change can be really scary. So let’s take a look at those fears and see what they are all about, shall we?

Journal Prompt for Today – Fear:

What is something you would love to do?

What is holding you back?

What would happen if that fear disappeared?

We're not hear to hide under our fears

There are all sorts of reasons we don’t do the things we love, but many of them come back to fear. It’s where that expression, “Better the devil you know, than the one you don’t” comes from. We are afraid of what others may think, what might happen if we fail, how we handle life afterwards. The list goes on and on.

Most of these fears come from family, friends and society and honestly, most of them aren’t meant to make us unhappy. These concerns come from a place of security and safety. The people that teach us to get stable jobs with health insurance, to hold onto guard rails, to walk the smooth path, it isn’t that they always want to hold us down. It is that they love us and want us to have a safe and easier life. And that is fine, but it’s a double edged sword. Those rules for safety become the very fears that keep us from doing cool shit.

In fact, that is why I had this tattooed on my arm:

The likelihood of death is very small, face your fears

Now obviously, we are all going to die, so one might say the likelihood is very high. But how likely is it that it’s going to happen today?

When I started doing Spartan Obstacle Course races I had some real fears. It’s entirely possible to be injured in one of those. But my big fears were things like:

  • I don’t know what the race will be like. (You don’t get to see the course map until the night before.)
  • What if I fail and can’t complete the race?
  • What if I let my teammates down?
  • and so on…

But I kept racing, and I forced myself to confront those fears. That’s when I asked myself, “What is the very worst thing that could happen?” I could die. It’s not likely, but possible. And that’s when I came up with my motto, “The likelihood of death is very small.” And I began applying it to everything that scared me. Once you look at something and embrace the fact that your worst fear is not very likely to happen (and if it does, it will be too late to worry about it anyway,) you can let go of your fears and do the thing. Whatever that thing may be.

And conversely, death does come for us all, hence the heron skull on my arm. Will you live your life without doing something you want, just because you are afraid?

My Goals and Fears

The thing that I would like to do is build my business so it is my only source of income.

What has been holding me back is a few things. Owning and running your own business is hard. In my case “the devil I know” is my main source of income, and comparatively it is much easier. I know what needs to be done and how to do it. I am an expert in my field. However, I am a novice in running my own business.

I think the biggest thing holds me back is that I don’t make time for it every day. And I need to. I need to set aside time every day to work on building my business. Already, I have a great foundation and I’ve put a lot of good things into place. If I could throw out all of my fears, I would devote more energy into making my dreams happen.

So, that’s what I am going to do.

How about you?

Following Along and Taking Part

You can follow along with January’s Journal Prompts on GRLife’s Instagram and Twitter. Watch this blog or find my responses to the posts on Facebook. You can also see past prompts there. Please let me know what you think – I love the feedback!

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